The Danger of Focusing on Superficial Qualities in the Quest for a High Value Man

    

    Within recent days I have viewing videos and podcasts by the God father himself the late great Sir Kevin Samuels. Mostly women tend to disagree with his approach in "His" show, which highlights the extremely unrealistic expectations of the modern day female.

    While it is important to note that not all women disagree with Mr Samuels Point of view, the majority are livid, and some have even expressed their gratitude now that he is no longer alive. It's a pity because many would rather live in the fantasy world of unrealistic expectations, rather than sober up and embrace reality.

    So here is my Point of view as to why it is very dangerous to focus on Superficial qualities in the quest for a "High Value" man.

     In the dating world, there's a concept known as the "high value man," which refers to a man who is considered desirable due to factors such as wealth, status, intelligence, charisma, and physical attractiveness. While the idea of a high-value man may be appealing to most women, it's important to recognize that this stereotype can be harmful and perpetuate unrealistic expectations in relationships. Which as the statistics will show lead many women to end their relationships.

    Firstly, the concept of a high-value man is based on subjective and often superficial qualities, such as wealth or physical appearance. By focusing solely on these external indicators of success or desirability, many women risk overlooking other important qualities that make for a healthy and fulfilling relationship, such as emotional intelligence, kindness, and mutual respect.

    Moreover, the term "high value" implies that men who possess these qualities are somehow better or more valuable than those who do not. This is an unfair and harmful stereotype that can contribute to toxic masculinity and an unhealthy view of self-worth. Men should be valued for their individual qualities and character, rather than their financial or social status. Sadly, in today's modern world many women would not even give a man a second look if he does not make at least six figures in income. Click here! for explanation.

    Furthermore, the idea of a high-value man can be damaging to women, as it suggests that they should prioritize these superficial qualities in a partner over other important factors, such as emotional connection and shared values. This can lead to a shallow and unfulfilling dating experience, where women are more concerned with finding a man who meets certain external criteria rather than finding a partner who truly understands and respects them. The reality is whenever or I should say if ever women do manage to date a "high value" man they end up realising that this is not what they want, then begin to brand all men as "Dogs" or other derogatory terms.

    Additionally, the concept of a high-value man can be exclusionary to those who do not meet these superficial criteria. Men who do not fit the stereotype of a high-value man may feel that they are not desirable or valuable, leading to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. Similarly, women who do not prioritize these external qualities (which is in the rare minority) may feel that they are not worthy of a high-value man, perpetuating harmful gender stereotypes and unrealistic expectations.

    In conclusion, the concept of a high-value man is an unfair stereotype that perpetuates unrealistic expectations and harmful gender stereotypes. By focusing solely on external indicators of success or desirability, we risk overlooking other important qualities that make for a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Instead, we should prioritize emotional connection, mutual respect, and shared values in our relationships, and value individuals for their unique qualities and character rather than their financial or social status. By embracing a more inclusive and authentic view of dating and relationships, we can create a more fulfilling and satisfying dating experience for all.

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Divorce: Why are so many women Choosing to End their marriages?

     

    It is the month of love, and at the time of the writing of this blog post, millions of couples worldwide are actually preparing (right this very minute) to get married. Ahh! the thought of that gorgeous blushing bride waiting for you at the top of the isle, clutching here daddy's arm as your family and friends stand in support, all in the month of love.

    However in reality many a marriage is short lived with about more than half of all weddings ending in divorce. Is it due to the lack of marriage counselling? or is it due to other factors? While it might be that the male is the stronger of the sexes and surely he would be the one applying to end the marriage; it is the reverse that is alarmingly true. Yes, according the statistics listed by the law firm Wilkinson and Finkbeiner  there is a divorce every 2 minutes (the average time it takes for the wedding vows to be recited). That's scary, and what's even worse, the women are the chief proponents of this action.

    Divorce is a common phenomenon in the United States, affecting millions of families every year. In fact, according to recent studies, the divorce rate in the country hovers around 40 to 50 percent. What is particularly striking is that in a large number of these cases, it is the woman who initiates the divorce. In this blog post, we will explore the reasons why 80 to 90 percent of women in the United States apply for divorce.

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• Lack of emotional fulfillment: One of the biggest reasons for women seeking a divorce is the lack of emotional fulfillment in their marriages. Women crave emotional intimacy and connection, and when these needs are not met, they may begin to feel unfulfilled and unhappy in their marriages. With most men at work and trying to be the provider in the home. One can understand why women may feel the emotional detachment. This can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and depression, ultimately pushing women to seek a divorce. However communication helps and if a compromise cannot be achieved, then the love of both parties for each other will have to be reexamined.

• Physical abuse: Physical abuse is another major reason why women seek a divorce. Domestic violence can take many forms, including physical, emotional, and sexual abuse. This type of abuse can leave women feeling scared, vulnerable, and trapped in their marriages. Many women who are victims of abuse choose to file for divorce as a means of escape and to protect themselves and their children. On the other hand, just to bring some balance to this point. Men aren't monsters. Understand that at one point these two individuals were in love, talking sweet nothings to each other. Physics explains to us that to every action there is an equal an opposite reaction. And to be clear i am not advocating for abuse in any way whatsoever. But could it be that physical abuse can also be caused by verbal abuse by women or actions like infidelity or other similar repeated action that can cause the man to lash out? Most, if not all women would not even admit to contributing to their physical abuse. They would all take the victim road which is unfortunate.

• Infidelity: Infidelity is another major reason why women seek a divorce. When a partner cheats, it can be a devastating blow to a woman's self-esteem and trust. The betrayal of infidelity can leave women feeling hurt, angry, and frustrated, and many choose to end their marriages as a result. Here is another very touchy subject. Again Im looking from the standpoint of two parties loving each other to the point that they want to spend the remainder of  their natural lives together. How does this untainted love evolve to the point of the man cheating? I think that it is grossly unfair to say that only men cheat in the relationship. And secondly, what causes a man to end up straying and going outside of the marriage after he stood and pledged his love and live to the female for good and bad, sickness and in health, for richer or poorer? While women uses these excuses to separate from the marriage, they are actually 50% responsible for the reported actions themselves.

• Differences in values and lifestyle: Differences in values and lifestyle can also lead to women seeking a divorce. As people grow and evolve, their values and beliefs may change, leading to conflicts in their marriages. Additionally, differences in lifestyle can create tension and stress in a relationship, ultimately pushing women to seek a divorce. Again here we  can deduce that communication is a major issue. Evolution in a marriage is inevitable and what is needed is both parties having the intestinal fortitude to talk about what they have grown to prefer and the love for each other to appreciate the new man/woman. The bible sets the precedence that two (2) cannot walk together unless they agree (Amos 3:3). Once the woman does not take the time to learn her man and to see things from his perspective, she initiating the divorce statistic will never change, and would grow even higher with every generation.

• Financial issues: Financial issues are another common reason for divorce. Money problems can create stress and conflict in a relationship, leading to a breakdown in communication and trust. Women may choose to file for divorce when financial problems become overwhelming and when they feel that their partner is not doing enough to address the issues. Here is another topic of high contention. but lets introduce the statistics here again. with 90% of college graduate women (those with degrees) applying for divorce. this means that these women are making a higher salary that the average woman. and in some cases even more money than their husbands. Could it be that these women have divorced their husbands because he was not making as much as they were? Or is it that they wanted him to cover their expenses, while he made significantly less money than her? Maybe women in this category can chime in as i am trying to understand the dynamic here. Again mutual respect, understanding, and communication is the issue here.
•  Personality Disorder: Personality disorders such as Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can significantly contribute to divorce due to the intense emotional instability and interpersonal difficulties often associated with the disorder. People with BPD may experience extreme mood swings, fear of abandonment, and difficulty regulating their emotions, leading to frequent conflicts in relationships. These emotional fluctuations can create a cycle of intense attachment followed by emotional withdrawal or hostility, making it challenging to maintain a stable, healthy partnership. Partners of individuals with BPD may feel overwhelmed by the unpredictability and emotional volatility, leading to feelings of exhaustion, frustration, and helplessness. Over time, these unresolved issues can erode trust and intimacy, ultimately contributing to the breakdown of the marriage. Without proper intervention, such as therapy and communication strategies, the relationship dynamics can become too strained, increasing the likelihood of divorce.  To learn more Click here

    It is important to note that these are just a few of the many reasons why women choose to seek a divorce. Every relationship and every situation is unique, and the reasons for divorce can vary greatly from one case to the next. However, it is clear that there are many factors that can contribute to women seeking a divorce, and it is important to be aware of these reasons in order to better understand and support those who are going through this difficult process.

     Divorce can be a complex and emotional process, but it is important to remember that it can also be a necessary step for many women to take in order to find happiness and fulfillment. If you or someone you know is considering divorce, it is important to seek support from friends, family, and professionals who can help guide you through the process. An honest and open minded look at the woman in the mirror would not hurt either.

Don't Be Caught Off Guard: How To Respond To An Earthquake

    On Monday, a catastrophic earthquake claimed the lives of over 3,700 individuals across Turkey and northwest Syria, as reported by Reuters. The winter weather, which is freezing, has added to the misery of the thousands of people who were left injured or homeless, and has hindered the search for survivors.

    The magnitude 7.8 quake caused entire apartment buildings to collapse in Turkish cities, compounding the already existing trauma experienced by millions of Syrian citizens who have been displaced due to years of war. The quake struck before dawn in unfavorable weather conditions and was later followed by another massive earthquake in the early afternoon.

This phenomenon was truly devastating. Even as this post is being written crews are still searching and trying to pull bodies from the rubble. 

In your area or country are you and or your family ready if a magnitude 7 or higher earthquake was to strike? 

Have a look at the seven points below and see how earthquake ready you truly are.

    Earthquakes can strike at any time and anywhere, and they can be incredibly destructive and life-threatening. It is essential to know what to do in the event of an earthquake to increase your chances of survival and minimize damage. In this blog post, we will discuss some of the crucial steps you should take if an earthquake strikes.

Drop, Cover, and Hold On

    The first step to take when an earthquake strikes is to drop to the ground, take cover under a sturdy piece of furniture, and hold on until the shaking stops. This is a crucial step as it can help protect you from falling debris and other hazards. If you are in a bed, stay there and cover your head with a pillow. If you are in a chair or standing, move to a nearby desk or table and take cover.

Stay Away from Windows and Glass

    Windows and glass can shatter during an earthquake, causing serious injuries. Stay away from windows, glass doors, and other glass structures, and if you are near a window, try to duck and cover.

Evacuate If Necessary

    If you are in a building, you may need to evacuate if the structure is unstable. Leave the building as quickly and safely as possible and move to an open area away from any buildings, power lines, and trees.

Do Not Use Elevators

    If you are in a tall building, do not use elevators to evacuate. The elevator shaft can be damaged during the earthquake, leaving you trapped. Use the stairs instead to evacuate the building.

Check for Injuries

    After the earthquake has stopped, check yourself and others for any injuries. If anyone is injured, call for medical assistance immediately.

Turn Off Gas and Electricity

    If you smell gas or see sparks or broken wires, turn off the gas and electricity at the main switch. This will prevent any fires or explosions from occurring.

Stay Alert for Aftershocks

    Aftershocks are common after an earthquake, and they can be just as dangerous as the initial quake. Stay alert for aftershocks and be prepared to drop, cover, and hold on if they occur.

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    Earthquakes can be devastating, but being prepared and knowing what to do can help increase your chances of survival. Remember to drop, cover, and hold on, evacuate if necessary, check for injuries, turn off gas and electricity, and stay alert for aftershocks. Stay safe!

Bullying in Schools: How to Tell if Your Child is a Victim

     

    I was reading an article some time ago about the rise of fighting withing schools here in Trinidad and Tobago. As I continued to read further, one parent started talking about their child defending themselves in a Fracas that occured at one of the schools. This had me thinking though; did this parent recognise behavioral patters in their child? What about changes in their speeches or grades in their school work?

     As parents we have been entrusted with an awesome responsibility, one that we must not ever take lightly. One should always be vigilant with our kids, as as It pertains to bullying, we must be ever so mindful of this ugly stains within our education system and how we can spot it and address it as son as possible. 

    Bullying is a serious issue that affects many children in our school system. As a parent, it’s important to be aware of the signs of bullying and take appropriate action if you suspect your child is being bullied. Here are some ways to tell if your child is being bullied at school:

Physical signs: Keep an eye out for physical signs such as bruises, cuts, or other injuries that can’t be explained. Your child may also complain of headaches or stomach aches, which can be symptoms of stress and anxiety caused by bullying.

Changes in behavior: Look for changes in your child’s behavior, such as a sudden reluctance to go to school, withdrawing from friends and activities, or decreased self-esteem. If your child seems sad, depressed, or anxious, it could be a sign of bullying.

Decreased academic performance: If your child’s grades suddenly drop or they start to avoid school work, it may be a sign that they are being bullied and don’t feel safe at school.

Changes in eating habits: Watch for changes in your child’s eating habits, such as skipping meals or overeating. Children who are bullied often lose their appetite or eat more to cope with stress and anxiety.

Loss of property or belongings: Children who are bullied may lose their possessions, such as their phone or school supplies, or have items damaged or destroyed.

Refuses to talk about school: If your child suddenly stops talking about school or refuses to share details about their day, it may be a sign of bullying. Children who are being bullied often don’t want to talk about their experiences for fear of retaliation.

    It’s important to approach your child with compassion and understanding if you suspect they are being bullied. Encourage them to open up and talk to you about their experiences, and offer support and resources to help them deal with the situation. If the bullying continues, it’s important to involve the school and work together to find a solution.

    Being aware of the signs of bullying and taking appropriate action can help protect your child and ensure that they feel safe and supported in school.

If you suspect that your child is being bullied at school take immediate action. 

• Set up a meeting with the school principal and the class teacher as soon as possible. 
• Take time to listen to the what their input might be in the matter.
• Encourage a forum for dialog with the kids and their parents if possible. 

Always keep a level head and keep check of your emotions also. It might be difficult, but teaching kids that dialogue is important, and setting that example is incumbent upon you.

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The Love Bug Bites: The Funny Story of How Valentine's Day Became a Holiday of Affection

 

Valentine's Day: Love is in the Air, and So is the Origin Story

Happy Valentine's Day, folks! Love is in the air, and if you're like me, you're feeling the love bug nibbling at your heartstrings. But where did this holiday of love and affection come from, and why do we celebrate it every February 14th? Let's take a closer look.

The Origin of Valentine's Day: A Wild Tale of Love, Lust, and Laughter

    Valentine's Day has a history that dates back over a thousand years, to ancient Rome. It was a time of love, lust, and laughter, where men would shower their women with gifts and kisses. But the real story of Valentine's Day is much wilder and more entertaining than that.

    You see, back in the day, the Romans celebrated the festival of Lupercalia in mid-February. It was a time of wild parties, where men and women would pair off, exchange gifts, and engage in wild acts of love and lust. But as the Roman Empire crumbled and Christianity took over, the church sought to put an end to the wild ways of Lupercalia.

    Enter Saint Valentine, a Christian priest who was imprisoned for marrying couples in secret. Despite being locked up, he continued to spread the message of love and affection, even sending love letters to the jailer's daughter. And so, when he was eventually executed on February 14th, the holiday of love and affection was born. (Lessons learnt> "Don't send love letters to your captor's daughter.)

The Rest is History: From Love Letters to Chocolate Boxes

    And so, over the centuries, Valentine's Day evolved into the holiday we know and love today. People started exchanging love letters and small gifts, and eventually, chocolates, flowers, and teddy bears became the norm.

    But despite its evolution, the spirit of Valentine's Day remains the same. It's a day to celebrate love and affection, to show your loved ones how much you care. And whether you're single or taken, there's no better time to spread a little love and laughter.

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    So this Valentine's Day, take a moment to remember the wild and wacky origins of this holiday. And most importantly, don't forget to laugh, love, and enjoy the company of your loved ones. After all, life is short, and love is precious. Enjoy Valentine's Day!

     Valentine's Day is a holiday that celebrates love and affection, and it has a rich and wild history that dates back over a thousand years. So whether you're single or taken, make sure to spread a little love and laughter this February 14th. And if you're feeling extra wild, why not channel your inner Roman and engage in some wild acts of love and lust?

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Don't Let Cervical Cancer Take You by Surprise: Protecting Older Women

 

    Cervical cancer is a preventable disease, yet older women continue to die from it. This is a worrying trend that needs to be addressed urgently. In this blog post, we will examine the reasons why older women are at a higher risk of dying from cervical cancer and what can be done to prevent it.

• Aging and Lack of Screening: 

    As women age, their bodies undergo many changes, including changes in the cervix. These changes make older women more susceptible to developing cervical cancer. Unfortunately, many older women do not receive regular cervical cancer screenings, which can detect the disease in its early stages and increase the chances of a successful outcome.

• HPV Infection: 

    The human papillomavirus (HPV) is the main cause of cervical cancer. While HPV infections are common, older women may have contracted the virus earlier in life and may not have been aware of it. This can lead to the development of cervical cancer later in life.

• Co-morbidities:

    Older women are often more likely to have other health conditions, such as diabetes, heart disease, and osteoporosis, which can weaken the immune system and make it more difficult to fight off cancer.

• Misinformation and Stigma: 

    Many older women may not have access to accurate information about cervical cancer and its symptoms. In addition, there is often a stigma associated with talking about the disease and seeking medical attention, which can lead to delays in diagnosis and treatment.

• Prevention is Key: 

    The best way to prevent cervical cancer in older women is through regular screening and vaccination. The HPV vaccine can protect against the virus that causes cervical cancer and can also prevent other types of cancer, such as throat and anal cancer. Screening tests, such as the Pap test and HPV test, can detect cervical cancer early, when it is most treatable.

    Cervical cancer is a preventable disease that continues to affect older women. By increasing access to screening and vaccines, educating women about the disease, and breaking down the stigma associated with cervical cancer, we can help save the lives of older women and prevent this devastating disease.

If you are age 35 or older please make it your business to set up an appointment with your OBGYN for a pap smear or cervical cancer test ASAP!