Divorce: Why are so many women Choosing to End their marriages?

     

    It is the month of love, and at the time of the writing of this blog post, millions of couples worldwide are actually preparing (right this very minute) to get married. Ahh! the thought of that gorgeous blushing bride waiting for you at the top of the isle, clutching here daddy's arm as your family and friends stand in support, all in the month of love.

    However in reality many a marriage is short lived with about more than half of all weddings ending in divorce. Is it due to the lack of marriage counselling? or is it due to other factors? While it might be that the male is the stronger of the sexes and surely he would be the one applying to end the marriage; it is the reverse that is alarmingly true. Yes, according the statistics listed by the law firm Wilkinson and Finkbeiner  there is a divorce every 2 minutes (the average time it takes for the wedding vows to be recited). That's scary, and what's even worse, the women are the chief proponents of this action.

    Divorce is a common phenomenon in the United States, affecting millions of families every year. In fact, according to recent studies, the divorce rate in the country hovers around 40 to 50 percent. What is particularly striking is that in a large number of these cases, it is the woman who initiates the divorce. In this blog post, we will explore the reasons why 80 to 90 percent of women in the United States apply for divorce.

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• Lack of emotional fulfillment: One of the biggest reasons for women seeking a divorce is the lack of emotional fulfillment in their marriages. Women crave emotional intimacy and connection, and when these needs are not met, they may begin to feel unfulfilled and unhappy in their marriages. With most men at work and trying to be the provider in the home. One can understand why women may feel the emotional detachment. This can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and depression, ultimately pushing women to seek a divorce. However communication helps and if a compromise cannot be achieved, then the love of both parties for each other will have to be reexamined.

• Physical abuse: Physical abuse is another major reason why women seek a divorce. Domestic violence can take many forms, including physical, emotional, and sexual abuse. This type of abuse can leave women feeling scared, vulnerable, and trapped in their marriages. Many women who are victims of abuse choose to file for divorce as a means of escape and to protect themselves and their children. On the other hand, just to bring some balance to this point. Men aren't monsters. Understand that at one point these two individuals were in love, talking sweet nothings to each other. Physics explains to us that to every action there is an equal an opposite reaction. And to be clear i am not advocating for abuse in any way whatsoever. But could it be that physical abuse can also be caused by verbal abuse by women or actions like infidelity or other similar repeated action that can cause the man to lash out? Most, if not all women would not even admit to contributing to their physical abuse. They would all take the victim road which is unfortunate.

• Infidelity: Infidelity is another major reason why women seek a divorce. When a partner cheats, it can be a devastating blow to a woman's self-esteem and trust. The betrayal of infidelity can leave women feeling hurt, angry, and frustrated, and many choose to end their marriages as a result. Here is another very touchy subject. Again Im looking from the standpoint of two parties loving each other to the point that they want to spend the remainder of  their natural lives together. How does this untainted love evolve to the point of the man cheating? I think that it is grossly unfair to say that only men cheat in the relationship. And secondly, what causes a man to end up straying and going outside of the marriage after he stood and pledged his love and live to the female for good and bad, sickness and in health, for richer or poorer? While women uses these excuses to separate from the marriage, they are actually 50% responsible for the reported actions themselves.

• Differences in values and lifestyle: Differences in values and lifestyle can also lead to women seeking a divorce. As people grow and evolve, their values and beliefs may change, leading to conflicts in their marriages. Additionally, differences in lifestyle can create tension and stress in a relationship, ultimately pushing women to seek a divorce. Again here we  can deduce that communication is a major issue. Evolution in a marriage is inevitable and what is needed is both parties having the intestinal fortitude to talk about what they have grown to prefer and the love for each other to appreciate the new man/woman. The bible sets the precedence that two (2) cannot walk together unless they agree (Amos 3:3). Once the woman does not take the time to learn her man and to see things from his perspective, she initiating the divorce statistic will never change, and would grow even higher with every generation.

• Financial issues: Financial issues are another common reason for divorce. Money problems can create stress and conflict in a relationship, leading to a breakdown in communication and trust. Women may choose to file for divorce when financial problems become overwhelming and when they feel that their partner is not doing enough to address the issues. Here is another topic of high contention. but lets introduce the statistics here again. with 90% of college graduate women (those with degrees) applying for divorce. this means that these women are making a higher salary that the average woman. and in some cases even more money than their husbands. Could it be that these women have divorced their husbands because he was not making as much as they were? Or is it that they wanted him to cover their expenses, while he made significantly less money than her? Maybe women in this category can chime in as i am trying to understand the dynamic here. Again mutual respect, understanding, and communication is the issue here.
•  Personality Disorder: Personality disorders such as Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can significantly contribute to divorce due to the intense emotional instability and interpersonal difficulties often associated with the disorder. People with BPD may experience extreme mood swings, fear of abandonment, and difficulty regulating their emotions, leading to frequent conflicts in relationships. These emotional fluctuations can create a cycle of intense attachment followed by emotional withdrawal or hostility, making it challenging to maintain a stable, healthy partnership. Partners of individuals with BPD may feel overwhelmed by the unpredictability and emotional volatility, leading to feelings of exhaustion, frustration, and helplessness. Over time, these unresolved issues can erode trust and intimacy, ultimately contributing to the breakdown of the marriage. Without proper intervention, such as therapy and communication strategies, the relationship dynamics can become too strained, increasing the likelihood of divorce.  To learn more Click here

    It is important to note that these are just a few of the many reasons why women choose to seek a divorce. Every relationship and every situation is unique, and the reasons for divorce can vary greatly from one case to the next. However, it is clear that there are many factors that can contribute to women seeking a divorce, and it is important to be aware of these reasons in order to better understand and support those who are going through this difficult process.

     Divorce can be a complex and emotional process, but it is important to remember that it can also be a necessary step for many women to take in order to find happiness and fulfillment. If you or someone you know is considering divorce, it is important to seek support from friends, family, and professionals who can help guide you through the process. An honest and open minded look at the woman in the mirror would not hurt either.